1. wonkywizard Post author

    He was living while dying fron a life threatened illness, not dying while living with a terminal illness. You would be surprised how these people and their families empowered themselves in times of crisis. Religious faith is a source of such foundation. Equanimity is indeed a real pearl.It is not easy to remain calm (mentally and spiritualy) with the dissolution of the body.The mind ego and the body ego must find a balance and in sync.The younger and fitter you are, the more difficult.So what is a good death (euthanatos)?

    My reply was in response to Sze Yeen’s querry, which I copied and pasted below:
    An ex-colleague who passed away recently seemed to have displayed the Spiritual Well Being characteristics you listed . He was given 6 months but choose to go exactly 3 years from the day he was first diagnosed. Remarkable man who shared his journey until his final days. Check it out ..http://upekah.blogspot.hk/

  2. Ah Gin


    Many thanks for sharing. Very deep and meaningful points made, not sure I can comprehend most of it, unless more detailed reading and analysis.

    Few years ago, We lost a very dear friend. She was only 52 I think. We did lots of research work (on Chinese Heritage in Australia) together, including visiting many Chinese pioneer graves across our State (Victoria, Australia). When she became ill, deep down we all suspected that she was not well, and when she insisted that we joined her and her extended family to celebrate Christmas together even though she was obviously in pain, we knew the worse was happening. It took 9 days between her announcement that she was dying and her actual passing. In that 9 days we tried to celebrate with her, every day — special Chinese food, Southern Comfort, Malt whisky. In reality, she could take only very little food or drinks, but she was more concerned about the living that she was about to leave behind. She insisted in going out in a cardboard coffin and a no nonsense funeral, not religious, even though her uncle said a few religious words at the graveside. She wanted us to use the money to celebrate at a top restaurant, rather than to waste money on an expensive funeral. And we did that. On her death anniversary, we had a grave side tea party, light a few joss sticks and say hello to her. We still miss her vey much, and in our conversation we still use present tense.

    Life and death? I still have lots to learn.

    Regards, LG

    1. wonkywizard Post author

      Dear LG,
      Well said. We have lot to learn. Your friend was very wise. She liked to share her remaining days with her friends happily, rather than dying in misery. She left behind good memories for her friends – died the way we lived.Some people prepared for “After Death”, forgetting it’s after. Could the brain cognised “after death”? It’s interesting to read about Ernest Becker’s Paradox. I hope these slides will generate more interest and discusssion.It was a lecture I delived to our local Hospice. It’s a misnomer; it’s more of a Palliative Care Centre, for, by definition, it was not “total holistic care”.Most of my notes were from books and webs all over the place, plus some personal experience as a volunteer for Hospice.


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